"Tender When I Want to Be" is a song written and recorded by American country music artist Mary Chapin Carpenter. It was released in December 1994 as the second single from her album Stones in the Road. The song reached number 6 on the Billboard Hot Country Singles & Tracks chart in February 1995.[ Mary Chapin Carpenter Hot Country Songs Chart History]
Critical reception Deborah Evans Price, of Billboard magazine reviewed the song favorably, calling it a "think-while-you-dance pop/country tune about grown-up emotions." She goes on to say that Carpenter continues to "light up country radio with incisive, intelligent lyrics and a talent for creating just the right melody."Billboard, December 3, 1994
Music video The music video was directed by Michael Salomon and premiered in early 1995.
Personnel Kenny Aronoff–drums Mary Chapin Carpenter–lead vocals, acoustic guitar Don Dixon–bass guitar, arco bass John Jennings–electric guitar, baritone guitar Steuart Smith–electric guitar Trisha Yearwood–background vocals
Chart performance "Tender When I Want to Be" debuted at number 59 on the U.S. Billboard Hot Country Singles & Tracks for the week of December 10, 1994. Chart (1994–1995)Peakposition
Year-end charts Chart (1995)Position Canada Country Tracks (RPM) 44
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