The Meaning of Mariah Carey is a memoir by American R&B singer Mariah Carey, released on September 29, 2020. It was written with Michaela Angela Davis, and was published by Andy Cohen Books, an imprint of Henry Holt, as well as in an audiobook format read by Carey herself on Audible. The book navigates the complex racial, social, cultural and familial tensions associated with Carey's upbringing as a biracial woman in Long Island, New York. This is framed alongside first-hand descriptions of the singer's personal and professional triumphs and struggles, and is interspersed with fragments of Carey's songwriting output.
The memoir was met with critical acclaim and commercial success, becoming a number-one New York Times Best Seller after its first week of release. To promote the memoir, Carey made a series of public appearances on a range of talk shows, including an interview with Oprah Winfrey on The Oprah Conversation.
Background Mariah Carey had considered writing a memoir since 2010 when she was pregnant with her twins Moroccan and Monroe. In the two years prior to The Meaning of Mariah Careys release, she told stories to co-writer Michaela Angela Davis. The book was first rumored in April 2018, and Carey acknowledged she was working on it during promotional appearances for her fifteenth studio album Caution (2018). On July 9, 2020, she announced the memoir was complete, and subsequently released the book on September 29, 2020.
Contents The book includes a preface and epilogue and is divided into four parts: "Wayward Child", "Sing. Sing.", "All That Glitters", and "Emancipation". It focuses on Carey's childhood, career, and personal and professional relationships, with less of a focus on events after 2001. Alongside the plot, the inspirations and meanings of many of Carey's songs are explained and are often accompanied by excerpts from them. Chapters occasionally begin or end with lyrics from Carey's songs as epigraphs, and Bible verses are incorporated.Carey and Davis, p. 47Carey and Davis, p. 246Carey and Davis, p. 337
Media outlets noted that men associated with her such as Eminem and former fiancé James Packer are absent. Her role as a judge on American Idol and feud with Nicki Minaj is unrecognized. She explained: "If somebody or something didn't pertain to the actual meaning of Mariah Carey, as is the title, then they aren't in the book."
Summary Carey witnessed violent fights between her older brother Morgan and parents Alfred and Patricia at a young age.Carey and Davis, p. 10 She used music as an escape and sang herself lullabies.Carey and Davis, pp. 5–6 Patricia and a childhood friend recognized Carey's vocal talent; their validation was her raison d'être.Carey and Davis, pp. 6–7 The relationship deteriorated after Patricia warned Carey "you should only hope that one day you become half the singer I am".Carey and Davis, pp. 58–60 Carey was neglected and her safety was disregarded by Patricia.Carey and Davis, pp. 56, 66, 75, 84 She felt inferior because of her unkempt matted hair and experiences with racism, including being called a nigger by a group of white girls.Carey and Davis, pp. 77, 89 Her older sister Alison brought twelve-year-old Carey to a whorehouse and her pimp boyfriend kissed Carey at a drive-in theater.Carey and Davis, pp. 68, 70 Alison drugged Carey and gave her third-degree burns.Carey and Davis, pp. 73–74
After graduating from high school, Carey moved to New York City.Carey and Davis, pp. 106–107 She began working with other artists such as Brenda K. Starr, who introduced her to record executive Tommy Mottola.Carey and Davis, pp. 113–124 Carey signed with his label, Columbia, and they entered a working relationship. Mottola advanced romantic gestures, and she was attracted to him for the "sense of home" he provided.Carey and Davis, pp. 126–130 Mottola was determined to marry her, and Carey agreed in hoping he would loosen his grasp on her life.Carey and Davis, pp. 146–150 The marriage became strained as soon as their honeymoon.Carey and Davis, pp.153, 155 Mottola stifled Carey's voice,Carey and Davis, p. 159 removed blackness from her music and appearance,Carey and Davis, pp. 147–148 and prevented her from realizing she was appreciated by others.Carey and Davis, pp. 139–140 As she was monitored with security cameras and an intercom system inside of the house and secretly followed by Mottola's security when leaving it, Carey likens herself to a captive in a prison.Carey and Davis, pp. 98, 133, 158–159 While Mottola "tried to destroy" her,Carey and Davis, p. 195 she began a covert relationship with professional baseball player Derek Jeter, and their encounters deepened her music on Butterfly (1997).Carey and Davis, pp. 192–208 Coupled with Jeter, Carey separated from Mottola after he dragged a butter knife down her face.Carey and Davis, p. 203 She divorced him and left Columbia for Virgin Records.Carey and Davis, pp. 210, 223
Carey's first album on her new label would be the soundtrack to the film Glitter (2001). Mottola continued to exert control over her career by interfering with both the film and album. To spite her after leaving him, the script became reductive and two of the soundtrack's songs were used to create similar-sounding ones for Jennifer Lopez.Carey and Davis, pp. 227–231 Combined with her demanding schedule, Mottola's meddling, and a tabloid frenzy over her appearance on MTV's Total Request Live, Carey was crippled with anxiety, fear, and exhaustion.Carey and Davis, pp. 234–239 Having almost no sleep in nearly a week, Morgan directed her to rest at their mother's house. Patricia woke Carey up and told her to go back to work.Carey and Davis, pp. 240–250 Carey verbally lashed out at Patricia, who called the police on her.Carey and Davis, pp. 251–254 Morgan convinced Carey to enter two facilities, both of which were unsuited to her needs. She was released from the second after the September 11 attacks and went on to promote Glitter.Carey and Davis, pp. 256–264 Carey entered therapy and was diagnosed with somatization. She was advised to no longer have contact with her siblings.Carey and Davis, pp. 265–267
Carey departed Virgin for Island Records and recorded Charmbracelet (2002).Carey and Davis, pp. 274–282 She reconnected with God by being rebaptized and beginning a three-year study of the Bible.Carey and Davis, pp. 267–268 Carey appreciated the commercial success of The Emancipation of Mimi (2005) and the critical response to her role in Precious (2009) for their ability to make both the public and herself move on from Glitter.Carey and Davis, pp. 289–302 After starting a relationship with entertainer Nick Cannon, they quickly married to have children, though they would later divorce.Carey and Davis, pp. 321–325 Carey was delighted that "All I Want for Christmas Is You" reached number one on the US Billboard Hot 100 music chart for the first time in 2019 and expresses how fulfilled she now feels as a person.Carey and Davis, p. 335
Style and genre Book reviewers felt Carey's experiences in her youth do not reflect her persona as a diva. While not only about hardship, Victoria Segal of The Sunday Times considered it more serious than gossip-oriented celebrity memoirs. Writing for The Guardian, Alex Macpherson described the book as "not the glitzy, gossipy celebrity reminiscence some might expect, but instead a largely sombre dive into her past" due to the significant length about her traumatic childhood. Times Cady Lang agreed, regarding the inclusion of Carey's relationship with Alison as "not a happy reminiscence on that time in her life, but instead a desire to heal from it". According to Véronique Hyland of Elle, "the reality of living with a flawed past and coping with the present" is the central theme. Noting its title is The Meaning of Mariah Carey—not The Making of Mariah Carey—Emily Lordi stated in The New Yorker that the book covers Carey's troubled youth more than her efforts to become successful. Rich Juzwiak concurred in the Los Angeles Times: "Much of the focus is not on what she has done but what was done to her."
Despite the book's subject matter, critics thought it purposely plays up her diva image and contains humor. Writing for the Irish Independent, Dónal Lynch said it "hams up Carey's reputation as the Marie Antoinette of pop". Aside from chapters before Carey's fame, Fiona Sturges of The Guardian thought it contains "a twinkling humour". Referring to the passage "I really don't want a lot for Christmas—particularly not the cops", Macpherson felt "Carey recounts many of the worst parts of her life with a deadpan, self-aware wit". The Financial Times Ludovic Hunter-Tilney described the book as "laced with dry wit", and Segal thought "she cracks enough jokes to suggest she would be great fun over an unguarded bottle of wine". Hannah Reich of ABC News thought Carey's humor was pronounced in the audiobook version as it is aided by her speaking voice. According to Kirkus Reviews, the best parts of the memoir are those in which her personality is apparent. Variety wrote "you can ... hear every sentence perfectly in [Carey's] voice". Citing comments about getting her hair done after the September 11 attacks and referring to Jennifer Lopez as "another female entertainer ... (whom I don't know)", Rob Sheffield of Rolling Stone felt "every page is packed with her over-the-top personality". Readers are often addressed as "dahlings".
Publication and promotion Andy Cohen Books, an imprint of Henry Holt and Company, published The Meaning of Mariah Carey on September 29, 2020. It was one of the division's first releases. The book was initially issued in English hardcover, paperback, ebook, and audiobook editions. It was later translated into several languages, including Bulgarian, Dutch, French, German, Spanish, Swedish, and Traditional Chinese. In December 2020, Carey said she was exploring how to adapt the memoir into a limited series or film. The Guardian reported in February 2021 that Lee Daniels is working on a miniseries based on the book.
To promote the memoir, Carey discussed the book in several televised interviews on American morning and late-night talk shows. With Jane Pauley on CBS News Sunday Morning, she talked about her troubled childhood, marriage to Mottola, and the events of Glitter. On CBS This Morning with Gayle King, she focused on the strained relationship with her mother. Carey explained the purpose of writing the memoir and the process of recording the alternative rock album Someone's Ugly Daughter during an interview with Stephen Colbert on The Late Show. On Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen and The Daily Show with Trevor Noah, she described early experiences with racism. During an episode of her Apple TV+ show The Oprah Conversation, Carey spoke with Oprah Winfrey about the impact that her unique hair had as a young girl and her relationship with Derek Jeter. In an interview with Trevor Nelson on BBC Radio 2 in the United Kingdom, Carey detailed relationships with her children and fans and addressed the pervasiveness of sexism in the music industry. She also participated in a conversation with Misty Copeland for Amazon Live. Carey felt the publisher gave the book limited promotion due to expenses associated with styling her.