Mistakes Were Made (but Not by Me) is a 2007 non-fiction book by social psychologists Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson. It deals with cognitive dissonance, confirmation bias, and other cognitive biases, using these psychological theories to illustrate how the perpetrators (and victims) of hurtful acts justify and rationalize their behavior. It describes a positive feedback loop of action and self-deception by which slight differences between people's attitudes become polarized.

Topics and people mentioned

The doomsday cult described in When Prophecy Fails The MMR vaccine controversy and Andrew Wakefield Conflict escalation in marriage and intergroup relations Day care sex abuse hysteria, alien abduction memories, and false memory syndrome Statements by Al Campanis and Mel Gibson justifying racism Confabulation of autobiographical memory False certainty in pseudoscience Self-justification and conflict of interest in medicine and politics George W. Bush and the Iraq War Justification of aggression, war, and torture Criminal interrogation, the pseudoscientific Reid technique, and false confessions Trials, capital punishment, police perjury, and miscarriage of justice Oprah Winfrey and her involvement in the James Frey controversy Carol Dweck's research on mistakes and learning

Reception Philosopher Daniele Procida described the book as an "immensely engaging and intelligent volume" and "a genuinely illuminating contribution to the study of human nature" but also criticised the book's informal style and sometimes outdated assumptions.Procida, Daniele (2007). "Review- Mistakes were made (but not by me)" Metapsychology Online Reviews Volume 11, Issue 31

Michael Shermer, in the Scientific American, wrote that Tavris and Aronson brilliantly illuminate the fallacies that underlie irrational behavior.Shermer, Michael. (May 2007) "Skeptic: Bush's Mistake and Kennedy's Error". Scientific American

A review in O, The Oprah Magazine praised the book for "the scientific evidence it provides and the charm of its down-to-earth, commonsensical tone.” Prose, Francine (May 1, 2007). "The liars' club: a revelatory study of how lovers, lawyers, doctors, politicians--and all of us--pull the wool over our own eyes." O, The Oprah Magazine (Hearst Communications)

A review in The Guardian described the book as "excellent" and suggests the quotation, "If mistakes were made, memory helps us remember that they were made by someone else,” should be printed on autobiographies and political memoirs as a warning to the public. The British comedian and novelist Alexei Sayle listed the book among his six favorites, recommending it as "endlessly fascinating, if you're interested in politics."

See also

List of cognitive biases List of memory biases Mistakes were made Non-apology apology Non-denial denial

References

External links Archive of Carol Tavris' official site for the book "Why It's Hard to Admit to Being Wrong" Interview with Elliot Aronson on National Public Radio, broadcast July 20, 2007 Point of Inquiry interview with Carol Tavris about the book (podcast) August 3, 2007